Law of the Garbage Truck

[Marcus Lim]

I was at a local foodcourt just this morning, having my usual breakfast. My morning silence broke with this elderly lady making a fuss at the service from the noodle stall i patron everyday.
"WHERE'S MY FOOD?? SLOWPOKE..." she said to the noodle seller. I pitied the seller, because here's a hardworking woman making noodles and running around serving food to patrons on her own, without any help at all - for just $2 a bowl of noodles. And for that $2, you imagine how much "garbage" (as you'd read in the following article) she takes in from customers!
As portrait painters servicing commissions to clients, we get a fair share of verbal wastes thrown at us. Before reading this article, I could never understand her immense patience for these pesky people. And I hope to share this with every art worker who visits this forum - and learn something for ourselves.
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How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood?
Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day?

However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly she can get back her focus on what's important. Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here's what happened.

I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when all of a sudden, and I mean without warning, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded and missed the other car's back end by just inches.

Here's what happened next. The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us. How do I know? Ask any New Yorker, some words in New York come with a special face.

Now, here's what blew me away. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly. So, I said, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'

And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you.

When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did. I guarantee it.

So this was it: The 'Law of the Garbage Truck.' I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets? It was that day I said, 'I'm not going to do it anymore.'

I began to see garbage trucks. Like in the movie 'The Sixth Sense,' the little boy said, 'I see Dead People.' Well now 'I see Garbage Trucks.' I see the load they're carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take over their day.

What about you? What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by......?

'Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful.' - Annette Funicello

[Julie Gerleman]

Marcus, this is just...fantastic. Thanks for posting it.

Cheers,

[Enzie Shahmiri]

Marcus, what a great post! At one point in my life I also decided that I will not deal with negative people and their hurtful ways any more. It took some time, but I learned to feel rather sorry for them and to forgive them for their inability to accept others as they are and be happy.

Just as the writer in the article points out, once you engage in the same type of behavior it is easy to become just another garbage truck!

A friend of mine once said when s.th negative is thrown her way, she puts on a smile and goes through the act of brushing it off her arms saying: "Off with you"!

Sitting in traffic once, I actually saw someone do that in a car next to me. Another person had turned suddenly in front of her and rather than blaring her horn, she just went through these motions. I had a real good chuckle and thought good for you! There was no mistaking, she was not going to get affected in a negative way!

[Julie Deane]

Thanks, Marcus. I got "dumped on" big-time today, and needed to read this.

[Anthony Emmolo]

Thank you Marcus, It's been a long time since I've been able to post on this forum, and yours was the first one that I read. What a nice way to return.