Establishing trust

Kimberly Dow · 01-13-2005, 11:06 AM

This is a subject on my mind at this time because I have a more demanding client at this moment. It has not been an issue for me previous because all clients have expressed a love of my work and basically put themselves in my hands. A landscape commissioned recently by an attorney is the perfect example

Chris Saper · 01-13-2005, 11:39 AM

Kim,

I think this is a big red flag, and you are unlikely to get her to like the way she looks at this time in her life. I don't know that you ( or anyone) can get control of the situation.

I say this because I haver made this same mistake - twice, and I should have known better after the first time. My client was very similar to yours in terms of age, appearance, etc, and began by saying she had never liked any photos of herself. I painted what I thought was a really lovely piece, and after she had it for a week or so, she decided she didn't like the 'mood' " I look a bit sad..." I actually painted a second piece , which she didn't like as well as the first. I rephotgraphed her twice, but couldn't come up with anything else she was happy with. After many, many hours of wasted time, I ended up returning her (already spent on my part!) fees.

Some years later she called to say she had purchased a Gift Certificate at a silent auction, and wanted me to paint her! I declined this time, and a mutual acquaintance bought her Gift Certificate, so all turned out OK, although it could have been much worse.

I have declined a few other commissions in the intervening years because I just knew I would not be able to meet the potential client expectations. Even when I could have really used the money.

I worry that if you proceed with this job, you will have 6 people to try to please, and are unlikely to have a happy outcome.

Kimberly Dow · 01-13-2005, 12:22 PM

Chris,

Your story is exactly what I am afraid of happening here. I'm meeting with her today again. We signed the contract over a month ago - and it's time to make a decision. I'm going to try and have an honest talk with her and see if there is a way to make her see that I am painting her and if she doesn't like herself - then she wont like the painting no matter what. Wish me luck - I really do not want to turn this one down for a variety of reasons, the least one being the money.

Thank you for sharing Chris.

Heidi Maiers · 01-13-2005, 12:34 PM

Well said Chris,
Unless you want to look at this job as time spent thickening your skin and learning how to deal with people who are impossible to please, you are in a no win situation. If she hates pictures of herself, she will hate any painting also

Kimberly Dow · 01-13-2005, 01:51 PM

[QUOTE=Heidi Maiers]

So I guess Kim, you need to ask yourself what you have to gain from accepting this commission: Will you produce a painting that you can be proud of (I think yes) and that will long be appreciated by its new owners (I think not)?
Do you have time to spend on a painting that may or may not sell, or do you have other clients waiting? If you have clients waiting, move on.
Do you expect to get future commissions from this work? If the leader of the pack decides she doesn

Mike McCarty · 01-13-2005, 02:10 PM

How about doing her in profile, more of a suggestion of her than a dead straight on look that begs scrutiny. Looking into a vase of flowers maybe.

Ask her how she will feel about her looks five years from now. Maybe she'll begin to look better.

Allan Rahbek · 01-13-2005, 02:47 PM

Kim,
Feel like I have seen here visage somewhere. I think that you should trust your self and pick the best possible reference and make the painting the way YOU see her.

This may come as a surprise to her. But anyway you will be gambling with your time, so why not present her for the portrait that she did not knew that she wanted?

If she don